Picking a baby name together should be fun. In real life, it often turns into one person vetoing every idea the other one loves. The good news: a little structure makes it much easier.
Here is the five-step method we recommend, and the free partner match tool that does most of the work for you.
Jump to: Step 1: Swipe separately first · Step 2: Only discuss the overlap · Step 3: Give each person a few golden vetoes · Step 4: Test the name out loud · Step 5: Sleep on your top three
Step 1: Swipe separately first
Each of you swipes through names on your own phone, without talking about it. Keep anything you like even a little. Independent lists stop one person from steering the other.
Step 2: Only discuss the overlap
Compare lists and start with the names you BOTH kept. Those are your real shortlist. Our partner match does this automatically: create a link, send it to your partner, and you only see the names you both kept.
Step 3: Give each person a few golden vetoes
Agree that each of you can veto three names with no explanation needed. Anything else needs a reason, like a teasing risk or an awkward set of initials.
Step 4: Test the name out loud
Say the full name with your last name. Call it across a room. Write the initials. Try the likely nicknames. A name that passes all four usually sticks.
Step 5: Sleep on your top three
Live with your top three for a week. Many couples notice one name keeps coming up naturally, and that is usually the winner.
Quick tips
- Keep swiping after you match. Your shared list updates as you both add names.
- Use the AI generator with your last name and sibling names to find options you would never think of.
- If you are stuck, try a new filter, like a different origin or a rare style.
Swipe more names for free
Swipe Keep or Pass below, then match with your partner to see the names you both love. Or browse boy names, girl names and names by meaning.
Swipe right to keep, left to pass. On a computer use ← → and ↓ to undo.
Your kept names
💞 Find the names you BOTH love
Each of you swipes on your own phone. Share your link with your partner, and Baby Name Bee shows only the names you both kept. No more arguing over the list.
1. Start a match
Create your link after you’ve kept a few names. Keep swiping later and your list updates.
2. Join your partner
Got a code or link from your partner? Enter the code, or paste their whole link.
Free to use. Meanings and origins are traditional etymologies; some names have more than one.
Frequently asked questions
How does partner match work?
Each partner swipes on their own device. One creates a match link and shares it, the other opens it. Baby Name Bee then shows only the names both of you kept.
Can my partner see the names I passed on?
No. Partner match only shows names you both kept, never the ones either of you passed on.
Is it free?
Yes. Swiping, partner match and the name generator are all free.
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